You say that your sister has always been miserable about her past choices. If she’s capable of feeling misery, there will just be misery upon misery and no amount of money can buy her out of it or shield her from it. Only goodness, sacrifice for others, doing the right thing can lift the heavy sentence she’s already got on her life.

Listen, there’s no getting out of anything. Who will inherit the real meaning of your sister’s actions — not the money, the meaning? I reckon she will, as in: lost, alone, dissociated, miserable.

You can use this for your own spiritual development by being very clear about what is most important, your own strength in not being sucked into the darkness of another’s moral blindness and callousness.

My sister has always been miserable about the bad choices she had made in her past…which she has begrudgingly lived with ever since. Anyone who is within “arms reach” that exhibits they are happier than her, she has to attempt to destroy without conscience. Some next-door neighbors have moved away from her for this reason. One couple never bothered to unpack…just resold their house immediately within the same month! Imagine?

We delude ourselves into believing our justice system is sophisticated yet it can be manipulated by a high school drop out. I wonder why there aren’t any sexy TV cop shows portraying this? What has happened is the classic case of the tail wagging the dog.

Everyone reading should be made aware of how common this is and how (legally) complicated it becomes to unravel after your parents are gone.

You are very right Jari…at least when I walk away from all this my virtue will still be intact…its who I am. What bothers me is how we were all so easily victimized by a smirking liar…with no recourse.

It’s not important to arrive at a diagnosis to know when someone is not being fair. Whether or not it’s a case of impaired capacity, people often act without loving care for others.

This is clearly a hurtful and upsetting situation, especially since your sister was given Power of Attorney for the estate. Sounds to me like the lawyers will have to fight it out. There was a will, no?

This type of scenario, unfortunately, is not rare.

Thanks for sharing and try to take it easy. Don’t let anyone else’s vices disrupt your own virtue. Just do the right thing each step of the way and stick to facts. Best wishes ~

It’s not important to arrive at a diagnosis to know when someone is not being fair. Whether or not it’s a case of impaired capacity, people often act without loving care of others.

This is clearly a hurtful and upsetting situation, especially since your sister was given Power of Attorney for the estate. Sounds to me like the lawyers will have to fight it out. There was a will, no?

This type of scenario, unfortunately, is not rare.

Thanks for sharing and try to take it easy. Don’t let anyone else’s vices disrupt your own virtue. Just do the right thing each step of the way and stick to facts. Best wishes ~

It’s not important to arrive at a diagnosis to know when someone is not being fair. Whether or not it’s a case of impaired capacity, people often act without loving care of others.

This is clearly a hurtful and upsetting situation, especially since your sister was given Power of Attorney for the estate. Sounds to me like the lawyers will have to fight it out. There was a will, no?

This type of scenario, unfortunately, is not rare.

Thanks for sharing and try to take it easy. Don’t let anyone else’s vices disrupt your own virtue. Just do the right thing each step of the way and stick to facts. Best wishes ~

She has only ever given my parents grief… ALWAYS complaining about “how hard-done to” she has been in life (ABSOLUTELY WRONG!) In the “final-quarter-mile” of my mother’s life she was cunning enough to trick our sick mum into handing all the other siblings inheritance over to her…to act as Power of Attorney for the estate! She has never worked a day in her life and even dropped out of high school at seventeen. She doesn’t know the value of a hard earned dollar and is considered the most irresponsible of all of the siblings! She has been arrogant and domineering throughout. She brazenly confabulates the real truth to my family’s astonishment. The estate has almost disappeared with lawyers fees and court costs! (this also because she is stubbornly unreasonable and a drama queen). She seems to become energized by any type of conflict or if her will is crossed!

The lawyers are just operating a business and so like any good customer they roll out the red carpet for her…which her ego seems to appreciate more than anything else.

Is this typical behavior and to be expected from a sociopath? Are we the trustees ultimately doomed? She has too much trust, control and power based on how she has demonstrated her obvious inabilities in the past.

It’s not a question of judging the person. It’s a question of limiting the power people without conscience can have on the lives of others. Children of narcissists and sociopaths suffer tremendously and, clearly, their parents are ill-equipped to see that reality for what it is. It may just be the case that people lacking in empathy and conscience simply know not what they do, even if their destructiveness and emotional wounding is glaringly obvious to everyone around them. This is irresponsibility: the inability to respond.

That “somewhat numbed” emotional state, that insensitivity of which you speak, Josie, can do enormous damage to others, though it may continue to seem trivial to you, though you may be thankful you don’t really care what they may think or suffer.

Sometimes people leave the country with a child to escape problems such as this. It would be illegal to do so, so I really can’t recommend it, even though that’s probably what I would do if I were you.